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I am finding that there are some interesting impacts to living this way that I had not anticipated. By this way, I mean in poverty. As far as the government standards are concerned, we fall far below poverty level – although as with most people considered to be ‘in poverty’ in this nation we are far better off than the majority of the global population.
Take a look at the living conditions, food resources and educational opportunities of people in a third world nation – THAT is poverty.
But, I admit, as an American I did grow accustomed to my somewhat comfy lifestyle and this has been somewhat of a shock going from an apartment and grocery shopping at Harris Teeter to living in a van and grocery shopping at the Dollar Tree. Even being in this weekly rate hotel right now is difficult. As soon as the weather cools we will be back in the van. If something doesn’t open up soon for one of us to get a job, we will be back there even sooner.
Now, we are Christians and we trust in God to provide us with what we need. We both believe that. But still, we are human. Still we look at our empty piggy bank and overextended checking account and then at the empty refrigerator.
It looks bleak.
I have noticed an interesting dynamic that pertains to relationships. It seems that we put so much energy and concentration into surviving that there isn’t much left for ‘normal’ things like relationships. Even our marriage relationship has changed. I can imagine how a mother living in this situation may find her relationship with her children impacted. It would be difficult to muster the energy to see to anything beyond their most basic needs.
My husband and I are aware of the strain this situation could put on our marriage (and in some ways is) so we are taking extra steps to prevent damage. We are both working to allow this to make our marriage stronger.
But it is hard. Even with God in the middle of this, it is hard. We are both in this tiny room, together most of the time and we are both people who value our personal space, our time alone. At least we both enjoy silence and neither of us watches TV!
We have our own spaces within this tiny room. He goes to one side and I go to another. We are learning to have space without space.
It is a challenge. What does someone do who does not know God. does not have Him guiding them? It must be that much more difficult, that much more hopeless How do we find these people?
(graphic by Stuart Miles at http://freedigitalphoto.net)